My partner….

1. Is sensitive to my feelings.
2. Respects my opinions and values.
3. Trusts me.
4. Is not overly possessive or jealous.
5. Accepts me for who I am and doesn't try to change me.
6. Treats me as an equal.
7. Is willing to discuss our problems and disagreements.
8. Doesn't try to control my life.
9. Does not embarrass me or put me down in front of others.
10. Thinks it's a good idea for us to spend time apart with other friends.
11. Gives me no reason to fear his/her temper.
12. Is never physically rough or aggressive with me.
13. Does not criticize how I look or dress.
14. Never talks about me behind my back.
15. Listens to me and tries to understand my point of view.

Does your partner……

1. Criticize and degrade you?
2. Make you feel afraid to disagree?
3. Act very jealous and possessive?
4. Accuse you of being unfaithful?
5. Try to control every aspect of your life?
6. Make you account for every minute?
7. Try to isolate from family and friends?
8. Discourage you from work and schooling?
9. Humiliate you in front of others?
10. Tell you you're worthless or crazy?
11. Destroy your property or sentimental items?
12. Pick fights with you?
13. Try to control all your finances?
14. Force you to have sex against your will?
15. Threaten to hurt or kill you or your children?
16. Threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
17. Hits, punch, slap, kick, push or threaten you?
18. Become violent, then say it's your fault?
19. Blame alcohol or drug use for violent episodes?
20. Regret hitting you and promise it won't happen again?