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Had they not arrived, I would have lost my life. A close friend recognized the signs of abuse and, with the support of law enforcement, helped me escape.
At the time of my abusive marriage, I was in a very high-profile job and my abuser was as well. I felt that letting people in on my secret would be embarrassing at best, and that no one would believe me since he was so well-known. I was denied money, and in fact had to turn my paycheck over to him lest I receive a beating. I even ran for election during that time, and won, and no one was the wiser since I covered my bruises with long sleeves and high neck.
I believe that most people don’t know that abuse can take many forms, it is not only physical. Emotional and financial abuse can be just as insidious. Victims, and I am speaking for myself, can be quite crafty hiding what they have experienced. A victim is embarrassed, scared and not even certain they will be believed. There are signs, all of which I had, including covering bruises, isolation, not having money for simple things, not inviting anyone over. The list is long, and it is important to understand the effect on the victim and to recognize the signs. If my friend had not paid attention, I would not be able to tell my story today.
At the time, a person in my shoes would have felt constant fear. At home flats worked best in case I needed to quickly try and run away.
Today a person in my shoes would be smiling. I recognize that I did what I could at the time and that eventually my life was saved.
It’s so important to recognize the signs. If my friend had not paid attention, I would not be able to tell my story today.
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